She’s Not Over Her Ex? Here Are 5 Warning Signs

Ah, the ever-persistent “ex-factor.” That one pesky shadow hanging around your new relationship, adding a little bit of drama you never signed up for.

 

It’s one thing when an ex tries to stay in the picture, but what if it’s your partner who isn’t fully over her past? Moving on takes time, and sometimes, people just need a chance to reflect before they’re ready for something new. But being the one who feels like the “rebound” can be tough, especially if you’re seeing signs she’s still attached to her former flame.

 

You don’t want to jump to conclusions, but if you’re noticing these five red flags, it may be time for a heart-to-heart about where you both stand.

 

1. She Brings Up Her Ex Regularly

It’s not always about what she says about her ex, but how often he comes up in conversation. If her past relationship finds its way into every talk you have, it might be a sign she’s not fully processed her feelings.

 

It’s natural for exes to come up briefly as you learn about each other’s pasts, but if her ex is a recurring character, it might be time to politely suggest focusing on the present.

 

2. Her Ex Seems to Pop Up Everywhere

Do you find yourselves out and about, only to notice her ex shows up too? While sometimes it really is a coincidence—maybe they share the same social circle or favorite hangouts—seeing him too often could be more than happenstance.

 

If her ex seems to be a regular guest at random outings and it starts to feel intentional, bring it up. It’s best to clear the air before any assumptions cloud the relationship.

 

3. Her Behavior Shifts When He’s Around

If her ex does make an appearance and she reacts noticeably, it’s worth paying attention. You might notice one of two extremes: either she becomes distant, or she ramps up her affection with you.

 

Of course, some discomfort around an ex is natural. But if you see an extreme shift in her mood or actions, it might indicate lingering feelings. Just a casual conversation about how you both feel in those situations can go a long way.

 

4. She’s Still Close Friends with Her Ex

This one is complicated. Some people can stay friends with exes without issue, especially if boundaries are respected. But if there’s a history of on-again, off-again dating or if they’ve crossed lines in the past, you might be right to feel cautious.

 

A strong friendship after a healthy, mutual breakup is one thing. But if her friendship with her ex is accompanied by late-night texts or emotional confessions, it could mean the door to the past hasn’t fully closed.

 

5. She Texts Him When She’s With You

If her ex is messaging her while you’re spending time together, and she feels the need to respond immediately, it might suggest unresolved attachments. Even if she’s telling him to back off, the fact that she’s replying could give him mixed signals and keep him hanging on.

 

Ask her to either ignore the texts when you’re together or establish some boundaries. If he’s truly persistent and bothering her, she could consider blocking him. A little boundary-setting goes a long way.

 

Communication Is Key to Avoiding Ex Drama

At the end of the day, the best way to figure out where she stands with her ex is through open communication. Talk it out, and if these red flags continue, it might be time to assess where your relationship is heading.

 

Not sure if she’s ready to move on from her ex? Join the conversation in the comments, or reach out to learn how The Sacred Kings can support you in building healthy, drama-free relationships through honest communication and self-awareness.